Let it go, what you can’t control

A few years ago I was going through a rough time…….actually……rough times are sprinkled throughout all our lives isn’t it? I just got a call to come back to work after a 6 month layoff. I was relieved because the unemployment checks were coming to an end, and I had part time college to pay for soon. Thanksgiving was also around the corner.

I was a bit sluggish in my first week or three back to work, trying to get in the “grove of things” again.  In the first week on a Thursday, I pulled into work and did the routine. At lunchtime, I went out to drive to get some food, only to find my car missing! In broad daylight and at a very busy intersection it was stolen! (Sarcasm On/) I called the police and they came out very quickly…..only 2 ½ hours later! (Sarcasm off/)

Fortunately, the boss let me use the company Van to drive around in, until the matter was resolved. A few days later the car was found. I went to the impoundment location and they wouldn’t let me take my car for quite sometime! Then the insurance representative came down and said there wasn’t much damage which was false!! The process took long enough, to where I let the Van go back to the company and I rented a car from the Airport with my own money up front!!!

Finally when I got the car, I realized the extent of the damage. For no reason, the thieves broke the stick so that park, reverse, and drive were in horrific shape. The nice CD player was ripped out, the inside torn up, the outer frame had damage and the ignition was ruined. Additionally my best CDs were stolen and my best Tennis Racket!!!!

Because of lack of knowledge, I didn’t handle the process with my insurance well. I ended up paying to get some of it fixed so that it was drivable when I shouldn’t of. Basically, when I was driving it, it felt like such a mess that I used it as a trade in and lost a lot of value. Tragically on top of it all, I had just paid it off (I bought it new) and was looking forward to not having to make payments in my financial time of need.

End of Story, but now the real point.

At one point I had to go to the bank to change my checking and savings account numbers for my protection. The Bank employee asked “why?” I responded with a smile “my vehicle was stolen with bank numbers in it”, “I’m sorry” she said, “Its ok, that’s life”. At this point she had a shocked look on her face and said “WOW, its amazing how well you’re handling this, I would be upset”.


So for some reason I handled this particular crisis really well….I wish I could always handle my emotions this well. Take control of your reaction.



Steps:
1) Don’t panic, it will only produce negative results
2) ACCEPT what you cannot control
3) Take it a step at a time
4) No matter what ridiculous things pop up, always tell yourself “where do I go from here or from this point on”. Think forward.

The Hurt Person before you

Have you ever had to deal with a person in your life; whether it is an irate customer, betraying friend, hurtful family member, or a nasty boss, that just seems to defy logic with their unfair dealings with you? You try to reason and talk to this person, but they respond with words that hurt your heart, or cause a wellspring of anger to rise up inside of you. You try your best, but it’s never good enough. Often times, you can never do any good…ever.

When confronted with these Weak Jerkies, our emotions get thrown to the surface. We may respond with outrage, sadness, and frustration. I would like to bring your attention too what is behind the surface. What is going on inside the worthless meat bag in front of you that has made them become so inexplicably ludicrous? These adult babies are often shallow inconsiderate human beings, with no concern for YOU or others.

Example:
Person A= Adult baby Person B= You

A---Why isn’t this done? I wish I was never married! Your work is slow! You didn’t do that yet? Anyone with half a brain could do that! You stink!
B---well what happened was this...
A---I don’t care!
B---If we could talk about this…..
A---Whatever! You should of……

They (A) send out bad waves which directly affect the person (B) their dealing with. Then (B) might be more edgy and be nastier to their spouse. Then the spouse is shorter tempered with a co-worker, then the co-worker takes it out on his friend. Do you see the possible compound affect of letting a jerk influence your life? Like a darkness cloud on the whole community. The good news is, the opposite can be true when you spread love and good deeds!

Steps:
1) Don’t blame yourself (but examine yourself in a positive light)
2) Don’t fall into the trap (of being like them, responding like them, fighting)
3) If the relationship is too hurtful, move on (no sense in making yourself psychologically unhealthy and unhappy in this short lifetime)
4) Give a gentle hint of a correct action (You cant save those not humble enough for change)
5) Ask yourself this question “who’s really looking out for me?” (if your brutally honest, your not going to like the answer)
6) God LOVES you, you are unique and special. His opinion is above all others.


See behind the flesh though; think of the troubled Soul inside. This antagonist you’re dealing with might appear to have an excuse. Perhaps he suffered a horrible childhood, terrible handicap or experience? Regardless, this person has CHOSEN THE DARKSIDE. This is a truth, because no matter what circumstances you go through in life, you can choose to hurt or help others. A weak person takes the dark path. Not to say the person may have an out-of-character bad day and such. But if this is the normal mannerism of the meat bag you need to make a decision.


Sometimes, it’s just best to move on. Their change is up to them, and they either have refused, or chosen darkness. You deserve better.